How To Stop Worrying About What People Think of You | Dr. Michael Gervais

Rich Roll

Jan 22, 2024

Episode description

Rich sits down with high-performance psychologist Dr. Michael Gervais to talk about why fearing other people's opinions is the greatest constrictor of human potential. To read more about Dr. Gervais and peruse the full show notes, go here👉🏾https://bit.ly/richroll808
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FILMED AND EDITED BY BLAKE CURTIS, DAN DRAKE & MORGAN MCRAE
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00:00:00 Intro
00:01:31 Acknowledging And Giving Gratitude
00:04:00 Evolution of High Performance Psychology
00:06:17 Vision and Decision-Making
00:08:30 The Power of Imagination
00:11:07 Cultural Shift in the Workplace
00:13:51 Psychology in Business
00:19:24 Implementing Psychological Skills
00:21:17 Reinventing Corporate Culture
00:22:23 Radical Risk Taking
00:23:47 Sponsor Break
00:24:56 Fostering a Culture of Encouragement
00:26:02 Learning from Athletes' Practice
00:27:24 Working on Weaknesses
00:29:37 Leadership and Accountability
00:31:37 Moving Toward Weaknesses
00:32:34 Approach to Skill Development
00:36:26 Internal Motivation and Mastery
00:37:00 Obsessive Worry and Its Impact
00:43:25 The Experience of Worrying What Others Think
00:45:07 The Sense of Community and the Fear of Rejection
00:47:00 Criteria for Selecting Trusted Advisors
00:49:24 Navigating Social Media and the Role of Trusted Advisors
00:53:46 Ad Break
00:55:17 Developing a Sense of Purpose - Thin Slicing and Relationships
00:58:06 Purpose in the Context of Community and Relationships
01:00:06 The Impact of a Growth Mindset and Curiosity
01:03:57 Managing the Anticipation and Checking Phases of Fear of Other People's Opinions
01:05:51 The Anticipation Phase
01:07:03 The Antidote to Fear of Others' Opinions
01:08:56 Unknowingly Betraying Oneself
01:10:11 The Impact of Societal Pressures
01:10:48 Extreme Responses to Fear of Rejection
01:11:27 The Story of David Beckham
01:13:22 Cautionary Tale of Social Media Influence
01:14:21 Neurochemical Impact of Fear of Opinions
01:16:27 Healthy Motivation from Others' Opinions
01:20:18 Impact of Anticipating Future
01:21:44 The Mentor's Influence
01:27:58 The Power of Others' Opinions
01:29:29 The Spotlight Effect
01:31:07 Breaking Ranks with Traditional Psychology
01:31:24 Ethical Codes and Confidentiality in Psychology
01:36:04 Honoring Fragility of Relationships
01:37:14 Mastery and Healthy Relationships
01:46:47 The Year of Play
01:49:49 The Nature of Change
01:51:39 Versions of Self
01:54:41 Acknowledgment and Gratitude

* * * * *

NEW TO RICH?
Hi I'm Rich Roll. I'm a vegan ultra-endurance athlete, author, podcaster, public speaker & wellness evangelist. But mainly I'm a dad of four. If you want to know more, visit my website or check out these two the NY Times articles:
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http://bit.ly/vegansglam

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Episode description

Rich sits down with high-performance psychologist Dr. Michael Gervais to talk about why fearing other people's opinions is the greatest constrictor of human potential. To read more about Dr. Gervais and peruse the full show notes, go here👉🏾https://bit.ly/richroll808
✌🏼🌱 - Rich

LISTEN / SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST
Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/rrpitunes
Spotify: http://bit.ly/rrpspotify
Google: http://bit.ly/rrpgooglepods

Meal Planner: http://meals.richroll.com
Voicing Change Book: http://richroll.com/vc
Clips Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/RichRollPodcastClips
Newsletter: http://bit.ly/rollcallemail

CONNECT WITH RICH
✩ Website - http://richroll.com​
✩ Rich Roll Podcast - https://richroll.com/all-episodes/
✩ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/richroll/
✩ Twitter - https://twitter.com/richroll
✩ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/richrollfans
✩ Strava - https://www.strava.com/athletes/14443?oq=rich
✩ Memoir: Finding Ultra - https://www.richroll.com/shop/books/finding-ultra/
✩ Meals - http://meals.richroll.com​
✩ Cook - The Plantpower Way - https://www.richroll.com/shop/books/the-plantpower-way-signed/
✩ Italian! - The Plantpower Way: Italia - https://www.richroll.com/shop/books/the-plantpower-way-italia-signed/
✩ Support - https://www.patreon.com/richroll

FILMED AND EDITED BY BLAKE CURTIS, DAN DRAKE & MORGAN MCRAE
https://www.blakecurtis.net/
https://www.dandrake333.com/

00:00:00 Intro
00:01:31 Acknowledging And Giving Gratitude
00:04:00 Evolution of High Performance Psychology
00:06:17 Vision and Decision-Making
00:08:30 The Power of Imagination
00:11:07 Cultural Shift in the Workplace
00:13:51 Psychology in Business
00:19:24 Implementing Psychological Skills
00:21:17 Reinventing Corporate Culture
00:22:23 Radical Risk Taking
00:23:47 Sponsor Break
00:24:56 Fostering a Culture of Encouragement
00:26:02 Learning from Athletes' Practice
00:27:24 Working on Weaknesses
00:29:37 Leadership and Accountability
00:31:37 Moving Toward Weaknesses
00:32:34 Approach to Skill Development
00:36:26 Internal Motivation and Mastery
00:37:00 Obsessive Worry and Its Impact
00:43:25 The Experience of Worrying What Others Think
00:45:07 The Sense of Community and the Fear of Rejection
00:47:00 Criteria for Selecting Trusted Advisors
00:49:24 Navigating Social Media and the Role of Trusted Advisors
00:53:46 Ad Break
00:55:17 Developing a Sense of Purpose - Thin Slicing and Relationships
00:58:06 Purpose in the Context of Community and Relationships
01:00:06 The Impact of a Growth Mindset and Curiosity
01:03:57 Managing the Anticipation and Checking Phases of Fear of Other People's Opinions
01:05:51 The Anticipation Phase
01:07:03 The Antidote to Fear of Others' Opinions
01:08:56 Unknowingly Betraying Oneself
01:10:11 The Impact of Societal Pressures
01:10:48 Extreme Responses to Fear of Rejection
01:11:27 The Story of David Beckham
01:13:22 Cautionary Tale of Social Media Influence
01:14:21 Neurochemical Impact of Fear of Opinions
01:16:27 Healthy Motivation from Others' Opinions
01:20:18 Impact of Anticipating Future
01:21:44 The Mentor's Influence
01:27:58 The Power of Others' Opinions
01:29:29 The Spotlight Effect
01:31:07 Breaking Ranks with Traditional Psychology
01:31:24 Ethical Codes and Confidentiality in Psychology
01:36:04 Honoring Fragility of Relationships
01:37:14 Mastery and Healthy Relationships
01:46:47 The Year of Play
01:49:49 The Nature of Change
01:51:39 Versions of Self
01:54:41 Acknowledgment and Gratitude

* * * * *

NEW TO RICH?
Hi I'm Rich Roll. I'm a vegan ultra-endurance athlete, author, podcaster, public speaker & wellness evangelist. But mainly I'm a dad of four. If you want to know more, visit my website or check out these two the NY Times articles:
http://bit.ly/otillonyt
http://bit.ly/vegansglam

I LOVE MAIL! SEND IT HERE:
2630 Conejo Spectrum St.
Thousand Oaks, CA 91320

#richroll #richrollpodcast

Mindsip insights from this episode:

Thin slice your daily purpose to overcome paralysis

To avoid being paralyzed by the search for a grand purpose, practice 'thin slicing' by asking yourself, 'What is my purpose for today?'.

Enhance middle-tier skills to build momentum

Instead of focusing on your biggest weaknesses, which can be discouraging, start by improving a skill in the middle of your stack to create a positive slipstream of momentum.

Shift from extraction to unlocking potential in leadership

The best companies are moving from an 'extraction model' that burns people out to an 'unlock model' that cultivates the dormant potential within their people.

Overcome fear of judgment to unlock potential

The single greatest constrictor of human potential is the obsessive, private worry about what other people are thinking about you.

Plan your future to enhance current performance

An NBA study revealed that players who had an idea of their post-career plans actually performed better and had longer careers in the league.

Recognize spotlight effect to reduce self-consciousness

The 'spotlight effect' is the cognitive bias where we think the world is watching us, when in reality, everyone else is just as worried about how they appear.

Recognize social nature to overcome fear of rejection

We are not individuals who learned to be social; we are social animals who have learned to identify as separate selves, which is why fear of rejection is so foundational.

Establish your personal roundtable for valuable insights

To filter whose opinions matter, establish a personal 'roundtable' of 4-12 people who have context on your life and have experienced high-pressure environments.

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