How to Rewrite Your Self Talk

Rich Roll

Jul 21, 2025

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Jennifer Pastiloff is a bestselling author and creator of the viral "On Being Human" movement. We discuss her journey from childhood trauma to self-acceptance, silencing your "inner asshole," and why your want is enough to change everything. READ MORE👉http://bit.ly/richroll924
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CHAPTERS
00:00:00 Start
00:02:13 Proof of Life Book & Hero’s Journey
00:05:26 Self-Acceptance & Inner Critic
00:06:28 Hearing Loss & Intuition
00:12:01 Childhood Trauma & Father’s Death
00:15:41 Emotional Numbness & Learning to Feel
00:18:35 Breaking Denial & Facing Reality
00:19:24 Motherhood & Compassion for Self
00:20:45 The Inner Critic & 'Nothing You Do Is Wrong'
00:34:55 Daily Practices & Beauty Hunting
00:37:37 Living in the Land of 'Fine' & Denial
00:39:41 Blowing Up Your Life: Destruction vs. Expansion
00:40:30 Separation, Intimacy, and Authenticity
00:52:40 Taking Action & Asking for Help
00:54:31 The Monster Voice & Shame
00:57:08 Healing the Original Wound
00:59:05 The Imaginary Time Gods & Late Bloomers
01:05:05 Unconscious Commitments & Agency
01:23:41 Willingness as the Bridge to Change
01:29:59 Rigorous Self-Honesty & Boundaries
01:31:03 Proof of Life: Main Message
01:34:09 Motivation, Worthiness, and Ambition
01:36:49 Navigating Book Release & Self-Promotion
01:38:51 Letter Exercise: Seeing Yourself Through Love
01:42:24 Hearing Loss, Humor, and Connection
01:48:45 Being Seen & Eye Contact
01:50:50 FDA Recommendations for Living
01:51:22 Advice for the Stuck & Terrified
01:54:45 Book Tour, Indie Bookstores, and Community
01:56:44 Humor in Self-Help & Final Reflections

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Mindsip insights from this episode:

Reject pressure from imaginary time gods to redefine milestones

The pressure to achieve certain milestones by a specific age comes from the "imaginary time gods," a false narrative that we can choose to reject.

#personal-growth

Reframe life changes as profound expansions

The act of blowing up your life can be reframed not as destruction but as a profound expansion, even if it feels the same at first.

#personal-growth

Recognize inherent worth beyond achievements

Your worth is inherent simply by virtue of being alive, not based on external achievements or things you have to "show" for your life.

#contentment

Develop intuition through hearing loss

Losing your hearing can force you to develop and rely more on your intuition, allowing you to listen in other ways and pick up on things that others might miss.

#hearing

#intuition

Incorporate Bon Charge red light face mask for healthier skin

The Bon Charge Red Light Face Mask is an award-winning, lightweight, and flexible device that can be part of a simple daily routine for healthier-looking skin.

#red-light

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Utilize Seed's DS-01 for effective probiotic delivery to colon

Seed's DS-01 Daily Synbiotic uses a special capsule-in-capsule system designed to safeguard and deliver 24 probiotic strains all the way to the colon.

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Write a letter from a loved one to see your true self

A powerful exercise to bridge the gap between how you see yourself and how you are loved is to write a letter to yourself in the voice of a loved one, starting with "If you could see what I see.".

#personal-growth

#self-awareness

Identify unconscious commitments to reclaim agency

We often have unconscious commitments, such as to chaos or being broke, and identifying them by looking at what we complain about gives us the agency to change.