Unpacking trauma: How early wounds shape behavior and the path toward healing | Jeff English

Peter Attia

Mar 10, 2025

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Jeff English is a trauma-focused clinical counselor with extensive experience working with adults, teens, families, and groups across various settings, including career counseling, life coaching, addiction recovery, professional workshops, and private practice. In this episode, Jeff shares insights from his work as a trauma therapist, exploring how moments of perceived helplessness shape behaviors and how adaptive strategies can become maladaptive over time. He discusses the concept of the “trauma tree,” examining its roots (causes) and branches (consequences), and highlights a powerful framework used at the Bridge to Recovery, a residential workshop where Jeff serves as an outreach specialist. Jeff reflects on the transformative power of group therapy, the role of vulnerability in fostering connection, and the challenges of letting go of control. He also offers practical advice on finding a great trauma therapist, balancing personal growth within relationships, and recognizing when it’s time to seek help.

We discuss:

Defining trauma—a loaded word [3:00];
The therapeutic process at The Bridge to Recovery: confronting discomfort, embracing vulnerability, and reframing one’s story [5:45];
The roots of the trauma tree: the foundational wounding experiences that shape adaptive survival behaviors [11:30];
The branches of the trauma tree: how trauma manifests through co-dependency, addictive patterns, insecure attachments, and more [17:30];
The connection between trauma manifestations and underlying wounding experiences, trauma triggers, and the importance of surrender in the healing process [24:00];
How surrendering control, eliminating distractions, and practicing vulnerability are essential components of the healing process [32:45];
How adaptive behaviors developed during childhood in response to trauma can become maladaptive in adulthood [43:30];
The difference between shame and guilt, and recognizing and addressing toxic shame and shame-driven behaviors [49:15];
The unique rules at The Bridge to Recovery that support the healing process [53:15];
Internal resistance to healing due to the fear of losing positive traits associated with trauma [58:15];
The stru

Episode description

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We discuss:

Defining trauma—a loaded word [3:00];
The therapeutic process at The Bridge to Recovery: confronting discomfort, embracing vulnerability, and reframing one’s story [5:45];
The roots of the trauma tree: the foundational wounding experiences that shape adaptive survival behaviors [11:30];
The branches of the trauma tree: how trauma manifests through co-dependency, addictive patterns, insecure attachments, and more [17:30];
The connection between trauma manifestations and underlying wounding experiences, trauma triggers, and the importance of surrender in the healing process [24:00];
How surrendering control, eliminating distractions, and practicing vulnerability are essential components of the healing process [32:45];
How adaptive behaviors developed during childhood in response to trauma can become maladaptive in adulthood [43:30];
The difference between shame and guilt, and recognizing and addressing toxic shame and shame-driven behaviors [49:15];
The unique rules at The Bridge to Recovery that support the healing process [53:15];
Internal resistance to healing due to the fear of losing positive traits associated with trauma [58:15];
The stru

Mindsip insights from this episode:

Create space between triggers and reactions for trauma healing

Healing from trauma isn't about never being triggered again, but about creating enough space between a trigger and your reaction to choose a different response.

#resilience

#trauma

Recognize generational trauma's evolving manifestations

Trauma passed through generations doesn't always repeat in the same form; a parent's alcoholism could manifest as their child's workaholism or perfectionism.

#trauma

Distinguish guilt from toxic shame to foster self-awareness

Guilt is the feeling of having made a mistake, whereas toxic shame is the core belief of being a mistake, which can manifest as either superiority or inferiority.

#emotion

#self-awareness

Recognize physical sensations to uncover trauma memories

You can remember trauma implicitly through physical sensations like anxiety or panic attacks, even without a conscious, explicit memory of the precipitating event.

#anxiety

#trauma

Transform maladaptive behaviors into adaptive coping strategies

Maladaptive behaviors are often ingenious damage control strategies or "old friends" that served you well in a traumatic childhood but now make adult life difficult.

#resilience

#trauma

Understand the Trauma Tree to address root wounds and their manifestations

The "Trauma Tree" model explains how root wounds like neglect or abandonment can grow into branches of manifestation like codependency, addiction, or attachment issues.

#addiction

#trauma

Redefine trauma as moments of perceived helplessness

Trauma is not just a major catastrophic event but can be any moment of perceived helplessness that activates the brain's limbic system, sometimes accumulating like a thousand paper cuts.

#mental-health

#trauma

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