How to Unlock Your Hidden Power! Influence, Boundaries, and Inner Authority with Kasia Urbaniak

Dave Asprey

Nov 14, 2024

Episode description

What if you could command any room and set boundaries without saying a word?

Dave Asprey sits down with Kasia Urbaniak, founder and CEO of The Academy—a trailblazing school where women learn the true principles of influence and authority. Kasia brings a unique and dynamic perspective, drawing on nearly two decades of experience that includes working as a professional Dominatrix, practicing Taoist alchemy in one of China’s oldest female-led monasteries, and earning certifications across disciplines like Medical Qi Gong and Systemic Constellations.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

• How to set clear, unbreakable boundaries in any situation

• Techniques for wielding influence without sacrificing integrity

• Tools to reclaim inner authority and navigate life with confidence

• Practical strategies for handling power dynamics in relationships, work, and beyond

Kasia’s methods have empowered over 4,000 women worldwide to step into leadership roles in every sphere, from personal relationships to professional arenas. In this episode, she shares practical insights on transforming how you’re perceived by others and, more importantly, how you perceive yourself. Whether you’re navigating complex workplace dynamics, strengthening personal boundaries, or seeking clarity in relationships, Kasia’s teachings offer a path to reclaiming the powerful, authentic authority within you.

Sponsors

-Zbiotics | Go to https://zbiotics.com/DAVE for 15% off your first order.

-LMNT | Free LMNT Sample Pack with any drink mix purchase by going to https://drinklmnt.com/dave.

Resources:

• 2025 Biohacking Conference – https://biohackingconference.com/2025

• Kasia Urbaniak’s Website – https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com

• Kasia Urbaniak’s Book: Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Power – https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/unbound

• The Academy – Practical Training for Women on Power and Influence – https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/the-academy

• Kasia Urbaniak on Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/kasiaurbaniak/

• Dave Asprey’s Website –

Episode description

What if you could command any room and set boundaries without saying a word?

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

• How to set clear, unbreakable boundaries in any situation

• Techniques for wielding influence without sacrificing integrity

• Tools to reclaim inner authority and navigate life with confidence

• Practical strategies for handling power dynamics in relationships, work, and beyond

Sponsors

-Zbiotics | Go to https://zbiotics.com/DAVE for 15% off your first order.

-LMNT | Free LMNT Sample Pack with any drink mix purchase by going to https://drinklmnt.com/dave.

Resources:

• 2025 Biohacking Conference – https://biohackingconference.com/2025

• Kasia Urbaniak’s Website – https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com

• Kasia Urbaniak’s Book: Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Power – https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/unbound

• The Academy – Practical Training for Women on Power and Influence – https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/the-academy

• Kasia Urbaniak on Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/kasiaurbaniak/

• Dave Asprey’s Website –

Mindsip insights from this episode:

Practice 'fully having' to expand your experience

For women, practicing gratitude can lead to a bodily contraction, so a more expansive practice is to 'fully have' or 'deeply receive' what you already possess.

#mindfulness

#women

Understand ego as mitochondrial behavior for survival

The ego can be understood as an emergent behavior of our mitochondria, which act as a distributed intelligence network filtering reality to ensure our survival.

#mind

#mitochondria

Harness personal power to prevent negative consequences

Any personal power that is left unused will eventually turn against you, based on the principle that 'a God ignored is a demon born.'.

#personal-growth

Engage authentically to enhance communication and connection

Listening to someone speak from their head is only pleasurable if you already agree with them, making it an ineffective way to communicate or connect.

#relationships

Harness sexual energy through daily erotic practices for empowerment

Taoist celibate nuns perform daily erotic practices to circulate their sexual energy, which is a key to their profound, rooted power.

#empowerment

#sex

Recognize functional power dynamics as connection and synergy

We tend to only label something a 'power dynamic' when it has collapsed and is not working; we call functional power dynamics 'connection' or 'synergy'.

#relationships

Recognize movement patterns of emotions in the body

Different emotions have distinct patterns of movement in the body: anger moves upward, sadness moves downward, and fear moves inward.

#emotion

Transform anger into purpose through focus shift

Anger, when 'cooked' or alchemized, can be transformed from a chaotic state into passion and a clear sense of purpose by shifting focus from what you're fighting against to what you're fighting for.