
Signs You're Dealing With A Narcissist & How To Outsmart Them To Find Happiness | Dr. Ramani
Rangan Chatterjee
Feb 21, 2024
Mindsip insights from this episode:
Establish internal boundaries to protect against narcissists
With a narcissist, boundaries must be internal, such as deciding not to share information with them, because communicating external boundaries will only lead to them being attacked.
Disengage from narcissists using DEEP strategy
A practical way to disengage from a narcissist is to remember the mnemonic DEEP: Don't Defend, Don't Engage, Don't Explain, and Don't Personalize their behavior.
Embrace radical acceptance to initiate healing process
The healing process truly begins with the radical acceptance that the narcissistic person's patterns are not going to change, which is often followed by a tidal wave of grief.
Break free from the narcissistic relationship cycle
Narcissistic relationships often follow a cycle of idealization (love bombing), devaluation, discard, and sometimes 'hoovering' to suck you back in.
Recognize gaslighting as a two-step attack on reality
True gaslighting involves not only dismantling your reality but also a second step of confirming that there is something wrong with you for perceiving it that way.
Recognize commonality of narcissistic traits in society
The prevalence of clinically significant narcissistic personality, not the formal disorder, is estimated to be as high as one in five or one in six people.
Remove narcissists to improve group health
Research on baboons by Dr. Robert Sapolsky showed that when the alpha (narcissistic) baboons were removed, the rest of the tribe became healthier and their cortisol levels dropped.
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