
The Shocking Reason You're Tired, Lost & Doubting Yourself | Esther Perel
Rangan Chatterjee
May 21, 2025
Mindsip insights from this episode:
Apologize first to reclaim power in conflicts
Contrary to popular belief, the person who apologizes first in a conflict actually holds the power, as it demonstrates strength and confidence.
Acknowledge your unofficial work resume to navigate relationships at work
Everyone brings an 'unofficial resume' to work, which is their entire relationship history that dictates how they deal with authority, conflict, and boundaries.
Focus on what you fight for, not what you fight about
In any conflict, it's more productive to identify what you're fighting for—such as power, care, or respect—rather than focusing on what you're fighting about.
Foster collective resilience through teamwork
Resilience has been misunderstood as an individual trait when it's actually a collective ability to tap into the resources available within a group.
Challenge frictionless tech to strengthen relationship skills
Predictive technologies that create a frictionless life prevent us from practicing essential skills for relationships, such as experimentation and dealing with uncertainty.
Combat social atrophy by enhancing unscripted interactions
Our increasingly contactless world is causing 'social atrophy,' a dekilling of an entire generation's ability to handle unscripted social negotiations.
Shift focus to fulfillment and belonging in identity economy
Modern work has shifted from a production or service economy to an identity economy, where we now seek fulfillment, meaning, and belonging.
Combat work stress to break unhealthy habits
Stress from feeling undervalued at work directly impacts your lifestyle, making you more likely to crave sugar, drink alcohol, or endlessly scroll on social media.
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