#1 RELATIONSHIP EXPERT: This Will DESTROY Your Relationship | Esther Perel x Rich Roll Podcast
Rich Roll
Nov 18, 2024
Mindsip insights from this episode:
Transform sexuality into eroticism through imagination and curiosity
Eroticism is sexuality transformed by the human imagination, encompassing aliveness, vitality, and curiosity, which is why you can have lots of sex and feel nothing.
Navigate multiple marriages with the same partner for lasting connections
In the modern West, you will likely have two or three marriages in your lifetime, and some of us will have them all with the same person.
Explore risk-taking as a foundation for building trust
A major debate in trust research is whether you need trust to take risks, or if taking risks is actually what builds trust in the first place.
Plan and create intentional sexual experiences in long-term relationships
In a long-term relationship, everything spontaneous has already happened, so committed sex must be premeditated, willful, and creative, not something you wait to just happen.
Balance authenticity with connection to avoid loneliness
The modern focus on authenticity, or being true to oneself, has led to a paradigm where we will leave a relationship to not betray ourselves, making us freer but also more alone.
Reject romantic consumerism to embrace meaningful love
Modern love often exists within a framework of 'emotional capitalism,' a frenzy of romantic consumerism where we are afraid to commit to the good for fear of missing out on the perfect.
Recognize fundamental attribution error in relationships
We commit the fundamental attribution error when we believe our partner's bad mood is due to their character, while our own bad mood is circumstantial.
Address ambiguous loss caused by technology in relationships
Ambiguous loss occurs when your partner is physically present but psychologically gone, such as when scrolling on their phone, creating a profound sense of aloneness next to them.
Revive unmonitored free play to enhance adult conflict resolution
The decline of unmonitored free play for children has removed an essential training ground for social negotiation, making it harder for them to handle conflict as adults.
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