The Skill No One Teaches Us About Love | Baya Voce

Mark Hyman

Mar 18, 2026

Episode description

Falling in love can be easy. Staying connected when conflict and stress show up is where the real work begins. On this episode of The Dr. Hyman Show, I sit down with relationship repair expert Baya Voce to explore why healthy relationships aren’t defined by the absence of conflict, but by the ability to repair and reconnect—and why repair depends as much on nervous system regulation as communication.

Watch the full conversation on YouTube or listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Here’s what we unpack:

• Why conflict isn’t the real problem in relationships—and what actually keeps couples connected

• What happens in the body during arguments, and why nervous system regulation matters more than the “right” words

• How past relationship wounds and attachment patterns shape the way we react during conflict

• Practical ways couples can repair after conflict and reconnect more quickly

When couples learn how to repair after conflict, even difficult moments can become opportunities for deeper connection and growth.

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Mindsip insights from this episode:

Utilize The Repair Lab AI app to resolve relationship conflicts

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Build capacity for tension through healthy relationships

Healthy relationships feel less like going to the spa and more like going to the gym, where you build capacity for tension.

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Take Perfect Amino on empty stomach for muscle repair and hormone support

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Expand nervous system tolerance to enhance relationship repair

Relationship repair is not primarily a communication skill but a physiological capacity skill to expand your nervous system's tolerance for tension.

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Utilize MDMA therapy to enhance communication in couples

MDMA-assisted couples therapy shows promise by quieting the amygdala's fear response, allowing for more open and regulated conversations.

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Address underlying issues in couples that never fight

A couple that never fights is more concerning to a therapist than a couple that does, as it suggests issues are being suppressed under the surface.

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Accept perpetual relationship issues as part of growth

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Practice regulation techniques on manageable triggers to build relationship capacity

To build relationship capacity, start by practicing regulation techniques on small triggers that rank a '5 out of 10' or lower on the intensity scale.