Ask Yourself These 5 Questions - Find Peace, Purpose & Design Your Dream Life | Mel Robbins

Rangan Chatterjee

Feb 19, 2025

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Studies show we spend up to 70% of our mental energy focusing on things we can't control, which affects our relationships, stress levels and health. But what if there were two simple words that could help us all break free?

Today's returning guest is Mel Robbins. Mel is a former lawyer and someone who has now become a sought-after expert in life improvement, mindset, and behaviour change. The occasion for her second appearance on my podcast is the launch of her latest book, #1 New York Times best-seller The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About.

In this episode, you'll learn about:
• The 'Let Them Theory' mindset tool - understand the two simple but profound parts: "Let them" for accepting what you can't control, and "Let me" for focusing on what you can
• The 5 questions that Mel thinks we should be asking ourselves
• The truth about failure - discover why the fear of failing isn't about failure itself, but about others' opinions
• Breaking free from people-pleasing - learn why we struggle to ask for what we need and how to start prioritising ourselves
• Emotional maturity - understand why adults often behave like "8-year-olds in big bodies" when emotional, and how to develop greater emotional intelligence
• The health-stress connection - explore how being triggered by others' actions leads to unhealthy coping mechanisms, and how to break free from this cycle
• Relationship wisdom - discover why criticism and disappointment are normal, and how accepting people as they are improves relationships

Over the past few years, Mel has amassed an incredible 25 million followers online because of her unique ability to connect with others. She is passionate, articulate and very relatable - and this conversation is full of practical tools to help you transform your relationships, lower your stress, increase your energy and feel more in control of life.

#feelbetterlivemore
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Show notes available at: https://drchatterjee.com/525

Connect with Mel:
https://melrobbins.com/
https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins
https://twitter.com/melrobbins
https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins
https://www.tiktok.com/@melrobbins
https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins

Mel’s book:
The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About
US https://amzn.to/432cApE
UK https://amzn.to/430fPhj

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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Episode description

Get your FREE 7-step action plan HERE https://bit.ly/4gE0w0P

Pique Sun Goddess Matcha is sponsoring today's show. Get up to 20% off off today + a free starter kit, simply go to https://piquelife.com/livemore

Order MAKE CHANGE THAT LASTS. US & Canada version https://amzn.to/3RyO3SL, UK version https://amzn.to/3Kt5rUK

Studies show we spend up to 70% of our mental energy focusing on things we can't control, which affects our relationships, stress levels and health. But what if there were two simple words that could help us all break free?

Today's returning guest is Mel Robbins. Mel is a former lawyer and someone who has now become a sought-after expert in life improvement, mindset, and behaviour change. The occasion for her second appearance on my podcast is the launch of her latest book, #1 New York Times best-seller The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About.

In this episode, you'll learn about:
• The 'Let Them Theory' mindset tool - understand the two simple but profound parts: "Let them" for accepting what you can't control, and "Let me" for focusing on what you can
• The 5 questions that Mel thinks we should be asking ourselves
• The truth about failure - discover why the fear of failing isn't about failure itself, but about others' opinions
• Breaking free from people-pleasing - learn why we struggle to ask for what we need and how to start prioritising ourselves
• Emotional maturity - understand why adults often behave like "8-year-olds in big bodies" when emotional, and how to develop greater emotional intelligence
• The health-stress connection - explore how being triggered by others' actions leads to unhealthy coping mechanisms, and how to break free from this cycle
• Relationship wisdom - discover why criticism and disappointment are normal, and how accepting people as they are improves relationships

Over the past few years, Mel has amassed an incredible 25 million followers online because of her unique ability to connect with others. She is passionate, articulate and very relatable - and this conversation is full of practical tools to help you transform your relationships, lower your stress, increase your energy and feel more in control of life.

#feelbetterlivemore
-----

Show notes available at: https://drchatterjee.com/525

Connect with Mel:
https://melrobbins.com/
https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins
https://twitter.com/melrobbins
https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins
https://www.tiktok.com/@melrobbins
https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins

Mel’s book:
The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About
US https://amzn.to/432cApE
UK https://amzn.to/430fPhj

#feelbetterlivemore #feelbetterlivemorepodcast
-------

Order MAKE CHANGE THAT LASTS. US & Canada version https://amzn.to/3RyO3SL, UK version https://amzn.to/3Kt5rUK
-----
Follow Dr Chatterjee at:
Website: https://drchatterjee.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drchatterjee
Twitter: https://twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drchatterjee/
Newsletter: https://drchatterjee.com/subscription

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Mindsip insights from this episode:

Recognize procrastination as a stress response

Procrastination is a stress response, specifically the 'freeze' response, which is a physiological reaction to something that requires a lot of mental energy.

Overcome fear of failure by shifting focus from others' opinions

You're not afraid of failing, you're actually afraid of other people seeing you fail and what their opinions will be.

Let others' success inspire your journey

Other people's success will never block your way; instead, it leads the way by showing you that it's possible for you too.

Let go of control to reclaim your life

You will never take control of your life until you stop trying to control everybody else's thoughts, actions, and moods.

Recognize jealousy as a signal to honor your values

Jealousy is a signal from your values that there's something important that you're ignoring.

Utilize Peak's Sun Goddess Matcha for calm focus and metabolism boost

Peak's Sun Goddess Matcha contains L-theanine for calm focus and EGCG catechins to help kick-start lipid metabolism and curb cravings.

Prioritize self-acceptance over seeking universal approval

The cost of being liked by everyone is that you no longer like yourself.

View adults as emotional children to detach from immaturity

The vast majority of adults are just 8-year-old kids in big bodies, and viewing them this way helps you detach from their emotional immaturity.

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