"We Learn it Too Late!" - How Society Makes Us Lost, Addicted & Mentally Ill | Jonathan Haidt

Rangan Chatterjee

May 29, 2024

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Today’s episode is about a topic that I am truly passionate about - the introduction of social media and smartphones into all aspects of our lives - and what impact this is having on us individually, collectively and, perhaps most urgently, what impact is this having on our children.

Jonathan Haidt is arguably one of the worlds’ most eminent psychologists. He is a Professor of Ethical Leadership at New York University’s Stern School of Business and the author of 4 best-selling books, including his latest ‘The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness’

In this episode, Jonathan and I explore how the fundamental differences between online and real-world interactions are affecting young people's social, emotional and cognitive development. We discuss why girls face unique risks on social media, from damaged relationships and reputations to harassment, and how gaming and pornography are shaping boys' expectations of relationships.

Jonathan also shares some eye-opening data about the link between a decline in teen mental health and the widespread adoption of smartphones and social media. He emphasises the need for collective action to create healthier norms around technology use, both at home and in schools.

We dive into practical strategies for parents, including setting clear boundaries and prioritising hobbies and family time. Our conversation also touches on the challenges of navigating technology use in a world where the pace of change has been so fast.

Jonathan remains optimistic that we're nearing a tipping point and outlines four key norms we can all adopt with our children—even if they’re already dependent on their phones throughout the day.

We also discuss in detail what we believe schools could be doing to help their students have less screen time and the importance of collaborating with other families to support healthier habits.
As a parent and a doctor, I'm deeply concerned about the mental health crisis facing our children and young people. But if, as a society, we can come together to raise awareness and take purposeful action, we can create a healthier future for the next generation.

I think this is one of the most important conversations that I have ever had on my podcast. Jonathan and I both believe that the rewiring of our children’s brains to be one of the most urgent societal harms that needs addressing. My hope is that you find this conversation eye opening, enlightening and thought provoking - and I very much hope it prompts you to take action.

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Connect with Jonathan Haidt:
Website https://jonathanhaidt.com/
Twitter https://twitter.com/jonhaidt
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jonathanhaidt/

Jonathan’s book:
The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness https://amzn.to/4aCHQf4

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Episode description

Download my FREE Habit Change Guide HERE: http://bit.ly/3QKGGFW

AG1 are sponsoring today's show. To get 1 year's FREE VITAMIN D and 5 FREE TRAVEL PACKS visit: https://bit.ly/43FwxQl

Download my FREE Sleep Guide HERE: https://bit.ly/3OzqCap

Today’s episode is about a topic that I am truly passionate about - the introduction of social media and smartphones into all aspects of our lives - and what impact this is having on us individually, collectively and, perhaps most urgently, what impact is this having on our children.

Jonathan Haidt is arguably one of the worlds’ most eminent psychologists. He is a Professor of Ethical Leadership at New York University’s Stern School of Business and the author of 4 best-selling books, including his latest ‘The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness’

In this episode, Jonathan and I explore how the fundamental differences between online and real-world interactions are affecting young people's social, emotional and cognitive development. We discuss why girls face unique risks on social media, from damaged relationships and reputations to harassment, and how gaming and pornography are shaping boys' expectations of relationships.

Jonathan also shares some eye-opening data about the link between a decline in teen mental health and the widespread adoption of smartphones and social media. He emphasises the need for collective action to create healthier norms around technology use, both at home and in schools.

We dive into practical strategies for parents, including setting clear boundaries and prioritising hobbies and family time. Our conversation also touches on the challenges of navigating technology use in a world where the pace of change has been so fast.

Jonathan remains optimistic that we're nearing a tipping point and outlines four key norms we can all adopt with our children—even if they’re already dependent on their phones throughout the day.

We also discuss in detail what we believe schools could be doing to help their students have less screen time and the importance of collaborating with other families to support healthier habits.
As a parent and a doctor, I'm deeply concerned about the mental health crisis facing our children and young people. But if, as a society, we can come together to raise awareness and take purposeful action, we can create a healthier future for the next generation.

I think this is one of the most important conversations that I have ever had on my podcast. Jonathan and I both believe that the rewiring of our children’s brains to be one of the most urgent societal harms that needs addressing. My hope is that you find this conversation eye opening, enlightening and thought provoking - and I very much hope it prompts you to take action.

#feelbetterlivemore
-----

Connect with Jonathan Haidt:
Website https://jonathanhaidt.com/
Twitter https://twitter.com/jonhaidt
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jonathanhaidt/

Jonathan’s book:
The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness https://amzn.to/4aCHQf4

#feelbetterlivemore #feelbetterlivemorepodcast

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Mindsip insights from this episode:

Recognize iPhone's evolution from tool to attention master

The iPhone transformed from a useful tool in 2007 to a 'master' that constantly demands attention by 2012 with the introduction of push notifications and mobile-first social media.

Prioritize slow growth for optimal brain development in puberty

Unlike other animals, it is maladaptive for humans to reach puberty quickly, as we are designed for a slow-growth childhood to allow for proper brain development.

Address stress to prevent early puberty in girls

Research suggests that girls who experience stress and trauma in childhood tend to menstruate earlier, which is an evolutionary response to a perceived dangerous world.

Prioritize one-to-one interactions over group texts for child development

Unlike one-to-one texting, large group chats encourage performance rather than the playful, bonding interactions that are crucial for a child's development.

Support Gen Z employees to overcome mental health challenges at work

Employers are concerned because Gen Z employees exhibit more mental health issues and have trouble with eye contact and divided attention, likely due to habits formed in a phone-based childhood.

Address gender-specific harms of technology on youth

The new tech world harms boys and girls differently, with video games and porn exploiting boys' need for agency, while social media exploits girls' need for communion.

Limit smartphone use to reclaim experiences and hobbies

A smartphone is an 'experience blocker' because it displaces all other activities like reading, hobbies, and sleep, even if the user is not on social media.

Leverage religious family structure to support youth mental health

Data indicates that children from religious families have been less affected by the youth mental health crisis, possibly due to the structure and authoritative parenting styles common in these households.

Choose tech-free schools to enhance learning experiences

Many tech executives, including Steve Jobs, sent their own children to zero-technology schools, suggesting they understood the downsides of constant screen exposure for learning.

Send phone-addicted teens to sleepaway camp for a powerful detox

Sending a phone-addicted, anxious teen to a sleepaway camp without devices can be a powerful detox that brings back their happier, pre-phone self within weeks.

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